February '05

2/19/05 ~ Ramble Ramble

Not a whole lot to mention as of late so really just making this post as a comparative observation to my life and something that I recently saw in a movie.  I rented Before Sunset because I had watched the prequel Before Sunrise nine years ago when it came out and had thoroughly enjoyed the acting of Ethan Hawke and the frenchie Julie Delpy was not so bad herself.

Anyway, to get to the meat of it all, there was a statement made by Ethan Hawke's character about how he was unhappily married.  I couldn't help but relate it to my past situation.  He basically said that the reason he was unhappy in his marriage is because he only got married due to an 'ideal' that he had set forth for his life, and not because he was actually in love.  I think the situation was even the same as mine, where he had completed his college degree and had ended up getting his girlfriend at the time pregnant.  Basically it boiled down to the fact that his character, much like my real life, had completed everything they had aspired to complete at that time in their life and viewed the event of having a child and making a family as the next natural step.. completely ignoring the aspect of weather or not they were really happy or in love with the person they were with.  Marriage and the family seemed like the next natural step in that 'ideal' set forth.

I don't really know what my point is for making this posting, as this wasn't some type of epiphany or new realization on my part.  I mean I have explained the exact situation and realization to many of my friends that I have spoken to about my failed marriage.  Maybe it's just nice to know that I am not the only one out there to have made the same mistakes, albeit a movie character the idea had to likely stem from real life events.

Anyway.. that's it and that's that for today's ramblings.  At any rate, I would highly recommend both movies.

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